Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Monday Is The Day

I just set Monday as the day Mom will be admitted to the assisted living center. I have a terrible stomach ache.

7 comments:

citygirl said...

Ugh...I know that stomach ache.

Keep strong and remind yourself that this is the best move for your mom. She will get the care she needs and you will get the time to care for yourself too.

I won't lie. It's going to be a crappy day and probably a crappy week but you'll both get through it and things will get better. Your readers are here for you!

Anonymous said...

While I haven't had your experience in this area (YET--but I can see it coming a few years down the road), I do want to express my admiration for you and what you've done. I'm not sure I will be so heroic and compassionate when the time comes. Things do have a way of working out, and you deserve **all the best!!** (Tons of good karma coming your way, I hope)
--Alex

Mom said...

It's time. It is the right thing to do. Breathe.

Y | O | Y said...

Thanks to you all for your kind words of support and encouragement.

I picked up the copies of her medical records at the doctor's office today and drove them up the the assisted care. I met with the nurse who will be attending to her. It was our first face-to-face and I felt a hundred times better when I left. Smart, caring, engaging, professional, understanding.

I'm still worried for Mom, but I am feeling better.

A Single Man said...

It's the right thing to do and I can appreciate how hard it is, having been close before myself.

Of course it's upsetting...you love her and what's happening is sad...but it is the best thing for both mom and you.

Hang in there...we're praying for you out here in cyberland.

citygirl said...

I'm thinking of you today. Hope things go as well as possible. Make sure you make some "me" plans this week to take care of yourself. Perhaps a massage might be good. Then again, I've bawled on the massage table a couple of times...

Lacey said...

Mine have been in nursing home for 8 years. Yes, 8. I know. Hard to believe. At first, they hated it. Then, with proper care and proper meds, they actually improved. I think they are better now than when they went in. They certainly have settled in to the routine and have very few complaints. And the staff genuinely seem to care about the mom, anyway. the dad bitches and complains and is very Archie Bunker-ish, and the staff is human. I try to remind him that you catch more flies with honey, but...
Anyway, time to take care of YOURSELF. You deserve it.